Hiya Dave,
My bad sent you the link showing the 2.2 i-ctdi relay not the i-dtec location.
Been a while but I believe the fuel pump relay was moved by Honda into the cabin fuse box and I think the relay you need to check is at number two position.
Note Please check your owner’s manual to confirm what I have stated above…. Thanks.
The relay you are looking for is grey in colour and should look like the one in the photo below.
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Just for future reference if you flip over the engine compartment fuse box lid, you will see the identification details so you can check in your owner’s manual.
WARNING
When you find the correct fuel pump relay do NOT try to start the engine even thou it will run for a few seconds and then stall because you have used the fuel in the feed line.
When you turn the ignition key to position II (ignition on) you should see the PGM-Fi indicator on the dash light up and extinguish. Exactly timed with this lamp, you should hear the relay click and the fuel pump turn on and off. If you do not hear a click and the fuel pump, then the main relay is likely to be at fault.